Freedom Is…(Inspiration for All People)

“Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety.  And at such a moment, unable to see and not daring to imagine what the future will now bring forth, one clings to what one knew; to what one possessed or dreamed that one possessed.  Yet, it is only when a man is able, without bitterness or self-pity, to surrender a dream he has long cherished or a privilege he has long possessed that he is set free—he has set himself free—for higher dreams, for greater privileges.”—James Baldwin

Hotep!

WTF Wednesday: A Need to Reevaulate Friendship Ties

 

Dear Diary,

Katrina had been seeking my advice in trying to decide whether to have sex with her new interest.  From what I can tell, he seems normal enough.  Because she’s slept with so many other men of obvious lesser worth with far less regard (WTF), I’m not exactly sure why she seeks my advice at all.  Well, I neither encouraged nor discouraged her sexcapade. 

The night came…She texted–according to her–just moments (WTF) before the get-down went down.  She asked me

Double Standards: The Fragile Female Ego

No one really cares when men are turned down–not women and not even men.  Traditionally, men are expected to handle being turned down with a certain measure of grace if for no other reason than men are often turned down by women.  Interestingly, this is not the case for women.  Sitting in the seat of passivity, women choose whatever would-be suitors come their way, taking no thought of the pain and devaluation that often comes with being turned down time and again.

In my time, I have turned down sex with different women for different reasons.  What I have found is that no matter how I explain the Earth-shattering news that a man is turning down a willing female sex partner, the woman is always taken aback.  I’ve been kicked out, called gay, cursed out, slapped, and once a woman disrespected my mother and my upbringing. 

Same Sex Marriage a No Go…

A few days ago, it was announced on a popular talk radio program that same sex marriage has failed in all 31 states it was introduced.  To be honest, I’m not sure how I feel about this. 

On the one hand, I’m completely turned off by homosexuality.  I don’t want to see two men or women together.  This is the mind of a heterosexual.  We immediately wonder how the sex works, and even though I understand that same sex marriage is about more than sex, we can be honest about same SEX being a component. 

On the other hand, I have a hard time supporting the arguments against same sex marriage.  They tend to range from the  egregiously false to the ridiculously unsubstantiated.  This issue settles on legal rights more than morality for me.  It is difficult to change the mind of the majority with moral-suasion alone.  The law must be on your side, and even then–well, good luck. 

Anyhow, I don’t have anything particularly inspiring to say, but I thought it necessary to mention that we clearly have a long way to go in becoming a culturally pluralistic nation–if that’s a goal at all.

WTF Wednesday: Proof that God Hates Some People

…Any questions?

…Just One of those Moods

Hi baby.

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I’m doing okay.  I had a long day, but I’m wondering how your day went.

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Really?  It sounds like you deserve some time off.

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I know, baby.  I know.  There’s no rest for the weary.  I’m thinking…what?  Tell me.

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Woman you are silly.  Anyhow, I’m thinking you should come by and let me relax you a bit.  Y’know?  Don’t worry about tomorrow.  Don’t worry about the job or any of your responsibilities.  Let me worry about you tonight, and let tomorrow take care of itself.

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Well, that sounds nice, and as much as curling up with a good book and picking your intellect piques my interest, I have something different in mind tonight.

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Besides missing you?  Nothing.

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Well, I have a few ideas rolling around up there chuckles.

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I thought you’d never ask.  Well, do you remember that bed frame we were looking at the other day—the one you said was “bold and beautiful?”